It is SO hard to change from loving a baby to disciplining a toddler...
I opened the door to Luke's classroom yesterday and saw him throw a puzzle on the floor in defiance. I asked what I just walked into and they told me he was climbing up on the table and they were placing him back in his seat
repeatedly. I got in his face as he was crying and told him "NO FISH" (they have a fish pond in the front of day care that he likes to look at before we leave). The previous day, Luke walked up to our 2 year old neighbor and pushed him. I about came unglued. We are working on that one.
When we got home yesterday, I let Luke play in the front yard- he ran in the street so I popped his bottom, got in his face and sternly said 'DANGER'! He cried. We played a little longer in the front, he got a grin on his face and ran for the street-- again... pop bottom, 'DANGER', tears.
I wanted to cry right there with him.
Today was a better day- he went to crawl up on the table and Ms. Marga said "I'll tell your Mommy" and he immediately backed down! Yay, I didn't hurt his spirit (my biggest fear)! Allie came to meet him at day care (he giggled with excitement!) and he had a cookie waiting in the car for hopes of a better day... I was glad to reward his good behaivor and he was all smiles knowing he had been a good boy!
Luke, I hope you feel how much your Daddy and I love you. I hope you know we discipline you because we love you and we want you to learn to respect authority. We want you to explore your world and learn how to communicate in a healthy way. Right now, you are testing your boundaries and that is okay- we want you to see clearly defined lines. We want you to be strong and not cower when you need to stand up for what you believe. Most of all, we want you to trust that we know what is best for you and want, more than anything, for you to succeed- we are your #1 fans! I love you, Baby.